Emergency plan for women who are affected by domestic violence
If you are experiencing violence either from your husband or partner, it is good to have an emergency plan. That way you will be well prepared if a violent situation occurs again.
You can decide what is important. The points listed below are only suggestions. Trust your feelings.
When you sense a violent situation is about to happen, try to escape with the help of your emergency plan:
You can leave with your children or get help from other people
How to plan my escape:
- I always have my phone with me. I have saved the emergency numbers and other important numbers (e.g. local police station, women's shelter, women's advice centre) in my phone/mobile.
- I have discussed my security plans with a person I trust.
- I have partially involved my children.
- If I cannot speak openly on the phone, I can use a code word so that my children know that we are leaving the apartment and the trusted person understands that I am coming.
- I have opened my own bank account with my own bank card/credit card and I have given the documents to my trusted person.
- I have made copies of all my important documents (see "emergency bag"), which I have given my trusted person.
- I have hidden money and spare keys in a place known only to myself so that I can access them in case of an emergency.
- I have packed an "emergency bag". I have left it with my trusted person, who keeps it and can bring it to me if I need it.
- When I decide to leave the apartment, I know the escape routes: exits, windows, lifts, etc.
- If I need to escape, I go to a trusted person. I have discussed this with them. I can also go to a women's shelter; I have the phone number handy.
The following documents in original or copy:
- Identity card/passport and child's identity card(s)
- own birth certificate and those of the children, marriage certificate
- Health insurance card, certificates, social security card
- Rental agreement, insurance contracts (e.g. building society, life and liability insurance)
- Employment contract, income tax card, school and work certificates
- Pension, social security and employment office decisions
- possibly divorce decree, custody decision from previous marriage
- Bank documents, savings books, securities (copies)
- If possible, a bank statement of the current salary of the husband (important for Jobcenter)
- possibly driving license, vehicle documents
The essentials for a few days:
- Clothing, toiletries, school supplies, favourite toys
- Medication, spare glasses
- Keys for apartment/car
- Mobile phone with charging cable
- Memories: Diaries, photos and beloved things
- I have 112 and other important numbers stored in my mobile phone/cell phone. I have shown my children how they can get help by phone/mobile phone in an emergency. I make sure that they can give the address of where we are.
- If I hide inside the apartment, I know which rooms are lockable. I know in which rooms I can call for help through the window or with the telephone/mobile phone.
- I use a code word so that my trusted person knows to call the police.
- I can talk to my neighbours about my situation and ask them to call the police if they hear anything or notice anything suspicious.